A few weeks ago I participated in a momentous occasion that happens only once in a lifetime, college graduation. As I sat among my peers, I looked around, and instead of seeing bright, young, and accomplished faces, I saw my entire class, heads down, texting away.
I sat in frustration.
This is the most impressive moment of our lives so far and people are so terrified of fifteen minutes of boredom that they are willing to miss an entire ceremony to fiddle with their phones instead. WHO ARE YOU EVEN TEXTING? All of your friends are sitting next to you! And, if you don’t recognize anyone sitting around you, maybe that’s because you’ve been glued to your cell phone for the past four years.
This article has been so long in the writing, I don’t even know where to start. I have so much hostility towards not only our generation, but also anyone walking around with their face pointed down towards their electronic soul mate.
I am TIRED of having to constantly ask my friends to please put their phones away when we are out to dinner and am sick of having to frustratingly repeat everything I say in between their texts.
I am TIRED of almost getting hit by reckless drivers who are more concerned about updating their facebook status than the fact that they almost just killed me.
And I am TIRED of feeling that my words are not important or that I am no longer interesting because everyone around me is constantly looking down instead of at my face.
Just think: Humans have had to sit and “be with their thoughts” (as my sister likes to say), for thousands of years. Until now, it was a skill that was learned at a young age, beaten into you by your parents, and practiced your entire life. We no longer have to be with our thoughts. The second a person fears they are not being fully entertained; the cell phone is whipped out in replacement.
I fear that our relationships with other humans have morphed into this bionic entangled mess that we can no longer even sort out. Never in the history of the world have we had the ability to have 30 different conversations with 30 different people, but not have to say anything of importance. Our conversations have gotten so lazy and superficial because there is no fear of getting hung up on, or walked away from.
If you were talking to a real human and you asked them “How was your day?” and they paused for 30 minutes and replied “good, lol”, YOU WOULD WALK AWAY! But you can’t walk away from a text so you no longer have to keep the conversation engaging or say anything of importance for that matter.
And I am not just blaming our generation; our parents are just as bad. “Research has shown that even newborns are primed to gaze into a mother’s eyes seeking social information. This is partly how bonds are formed”, states NBC news. But parents no longer look at their children for they are too busy getting to the next level of fruit ninja.
My patience is completely gone and I am no longer polite when I ask people to please give me their full attention as I am giving to them. Cell phones were made to supplement our lives, not BE our lives. Please, leave your cell phone in the car and get back to being human.